The following are actual questions that have been asked by our clients. If you have a question of a more specific nature, please feel free to contact us so we can answer your question personally.

What's involved in an adoption?

Adoption is a legal procedure that places a child with adoptive parents who raise the child as a member of their own family. The adoption becomes permanent after the birthparents relinquish their parental rights.

There are two parts to adoption. First, the birthparents give permission for the child to be adopted. Secondly, a couple wanting to adopt a child must apply and be accepted as prospective adoptive parents by an adoption agency. A thorough assessment, called a home study, is done to ensure that the couple will be able to provide proper care and love for a child.

Isn't it selfish to even consider adoption?

No. The fact that you are considering adoption shows that you are not just thinking about yourself.

It means that you are concerned about being good parents and sensible enough to realize that raising a child can be difficult, even with the help of family and friends. It is not selfish to choose what is best for you and your baby. You have already given your child the ultimate gift – Life. And you would be bringing joy to a couple who may not be able to have a child.

Wouldn't it be better to marry my boyfriend and raise the baby together?

Raising a child in a secure, loving family environment is important. Your desire to provide this for your child is a loving and mature response.

Marriage, however, is a serious commitment requiring a strong, loving relationship. Getting married because you're pregnant is no longer considered the right thing to do. Marriage failures are high among those who marry under such pressures.

What if my parents and friends think I should keep the baby?

It may be hard for your parents and others to know that you are considering adoption. Your parents may be thinking of a grandchild, your boyfriend may think it is his duty to be a father, and your friends may be thinking of a lovable and cuddly baby. Ultimately, the decision to release your child for adoption or raise your baby yourself is one that you will live with for the rest of your life. It should be a decision that you make after you consider your options carefully.

When would I have to make my decision?

You can decide at any point in your pregnancy or after the baby is born. Some birth mothers decide long before the birth, while others may place the baby in foster care while they make the decision after the birth. However, many have found that making a commitment to adoption before the birth makes the placement easier for the birthparents.

Will my baby be taken care of?

Yes. Your baby will be placed in a loving home immediately.

Adoption agencies have long waiting lists of couples who are unable to have children and who are ready to love and raise a child. Every one of these couples are carefully investigated in every aspect. Home visits are conducted by the agency both before and after placement. There are more couples waiting to adopt than babies being placed for adoption. It's estimated that fifteen to twenty loving couples wait for every healthy infant available, and many families are waiting to adopt babies who are born with physical challenges. Most couples wait years before they are chosen to adopt a child.